I have this problem. I got a Christmas card from my ex Mother in Law. She sends me a Christmas card every year. Since we moved offices it was very late in getting to me. My dilemma.. She says she's extremely sad. She has lost her boyfriend of several years and her oldest son in the same year. She said she hasn't been able to get over it. She feels like she's dying herself. I feel horrible. I mean I really loved his family. Loved his sister and her son. Loved his brothers and his mom. It was really hard for me to cut them out of my life when K and I split up. I knew it would have to be for the better since now I had Sam in life. But really I don't foresee her having much longer on this earth. I'd like to be able to have some contact with her. I know she liked me a lot. After K and I split up she offered her house to me. She has always wanted me to be in her life. But I chose not to out of respect for Sam.
Well I'm thinking that after all these years it would be ok to send her a letter and just open up a relationship in that way. I don't want to know about K or his life. What I'm interested in is Mary Ann, Lorraine and Steven. I will bring this up to Sam before I do anything. But I just wanted to get some advice as to what you would do. As far as I know. K is married and living in TX somewhere.
I'm going to email Sam or just talk to him about what he thinks. I mean it would be the same with him. If were to split up I would definitely stay in contact with his family even if we didn't have the kids. I pretty sure he'd understand. We'll see.
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I think it is a good idea to contact her through a letter, just to see how she is doing and the other family members, after talking it over with Sam. I don't see any harm in it as long as she understands you are only contacting her, not her son (which sounds like she does know that).
Thanks Peggie. Years ago I'd sent her a card. So I've talked to her a little bit like that. But that would be it.
I think as long as you talk to Sam about it and respect his feelings there isn't anything wrong with contacting her. If J and ever do actually divorce, I will always maintain a relationship with his mom and this is something that a new love interest will have to accept. ((HUGS))
Thanks Chelle!! ((HUGS))
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